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Old 10-01-2007, 01:41 PM   #1
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Today my father would have been 98 years old. He died of complications from cancer in 1993. To this day, I don't think of him as dead. He's only running an errand, and any moment will walk back through the door. But only on this day am I forced to accept reality, because I'm not baking his birthday cake, or picking out that special card, or watching his grin as his family gathers around the table, because he was happiest when his family was around him.

If you still have your fathers, give them a hug, or a phone call. Let them know how much you love them, warts and all.

Now I'm going back to my wine...

"To her the name of father was another name for love." ~~Fanny Fern.~~
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It never really gets easier, does it.

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Old 10-02-2007, 03:51 AM   #3
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No, it never really goes away. Doesn't help that my father and I probably had two arguments over our lifetime, whereas I was in seemingly endless turmoil with the rest of the family. It was like stepping off the edge of the world when he died, and I sometimes think I still havent' found firm footing...
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Don't know what to say, so ...

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Thanks. I really should know better than to open the wine (or get online) on certain days. But everybody's entitled to a little self-pity now and then, right? :?
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Thanks. I really should know better than to open the wine (or get online) on certain days. But everybody's entitled to a little self-pity now and then, right? :?
Course. Besides that in times like that you need persons "around" you who encourage you a little. Empathy! :wink:

Forget the self-pity cause it's not that at all!
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Thanks. I think that's why I love this site so much, and why it was the one I went to yesterday - just needed someone to "talk" to. But I'm not really the "gushy" type, and I embarrass myself, too. :roll:
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By my fingertips sometimes - but they're tough little buggers :wink:
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I'm so sorry. I know, your life will be forever cut in two - life with then life without dad. It was like that when my mother passed away.

I lost my dad 4 years ago. I miss them both terribly. Even though you know it's likely the parents are going to go before you, it doesn't make it any easier, does it?

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Old 10-02-2007, 09:38 PM   #13
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Thanks. What is so amazing to me, still, is how many people my dad had touched. He was a homebody, quiet. Worked for the railroad for 48 years and had been retired for almost 20 - and yet, he had veteran honor guards from three different towns come to the funeral, all knew him from the railroad days. And we had cards and notes from total strangers, people he'd helped out in "little" ways through the years, just because he could. And he was almost as much a father to my son as he was grandfather. The two of them were inseparable. I always think if I did nothing else for him, I gave him that.

Better quit now before I get totally maudlin. :roll:
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Thanks. What is so amazing to me, still, is how many people my dad had touched. He was a homebody, quiet. Worked for the railroad for 48 years and had been retired for almost 20 - and yet, he had veteran honor guards from three different towns come to the funeral, all knew him from the railroad days. And we had cards and notes from total strangers, people he'd helped out in "little" ways through the years, just because he could. And he was almost as much a father to my son as he was grandfa ther. The two of them were inseparable. I always think if I did nothing else for him, I gave him that.

Better quit now before I get totally maudlin. :roll:
hey Ost,

What you have written is absolutely beautiful. That is such an honor to remember him in such a positive way. It is sad that he is no longer with us...Just like your dad had his "little" ways, you seemed to have inherited that trait, and thats a beautiful thing too. It shows through your writing how much of a caring,smart & wonderful person you are. Your "little" ways go a "long" way with a few of us here and we appreciate that.

Nothing wrong with being sentimental..you can always lean on us when you need a shoulder to cry on or need some help with the wine

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Howdy Ostarella

'Time is a Healer'.....I know how you'd feel when yr parents/love ones/pets're gone!! ..been there myself few times....sadly but True..it's Circle of Life...unavoidable fact for everyone......Be born...Be Old...Be Ill and Be Gone....That's Life!!..so do try to make the most of it while you can...hope yr vacation's plan, this mnth's stiil on..perhaps it'll do you good :?:

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Thanks - I try very hard not to dwell on the losses of life. Doesn't change anything, after all.

As to vacation plans - no vacation this year. Too much work to get done around the homestead, so spending my cruise money on more mundane pursuits. But - good news is I've decided (with my brother's blessing) to move out of the "new" house (5 bedroom, 2 bath, 2 story monster) into the "old" house (original farmhouse which my Dad turned into his workshop). It's one room (12x20) with an attic (no stairs, just a ladder), and a woodburning stove - but it does have electricity :lol: Have to do some renovating just to make it liveable, but it will be *my* space, not shared. So there are still things to look forward to :wink:
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